The last few months have been challenging for all parents, but especially for women and mothers. God instilled in women the nurturing, social characteristic that requires more interaction, affection and more visual connection. So, this time of isolation can be challenging, but God can use it to create a new oneness with him.
As I recall some of my experiences, I discovered four underlying qualities that God impressed on my heart to quiet my spirit and ease uncertain times. While my children were young, I spent many nights praying for strength, but ultimately learned to let God handle the situation. He taught me to trust and obey His word and stand on His promises.
These four simple and effective attributes can be lifesavers for moms when dealing with stress, anxiety and overwhelming circumstances.
- Be teachable – Incorporate humility in your daily walk with God and with people. Utilize interruptions as special teachable moments with your children, and time for gaining new knowledge for yourself. Seek counsel from another Christian woman.
Listen to advice and accept instruction, that you may gain wisdom in the future.
Proverbs 19:20
Pray for wisdom to understand God’s word and become a heart listener, not just hearing it, but putting it into practice. I can think of several mentors- Christian women- God placed in my life at just the right time who gave me parenting and personal advice during trying times. Looking back, I wish I would have listened more seriously and possibly avoided some of the trials that were a result. Our life choices affected our relationships, especially with your husband and children. God knew I needed strong Christian women to guide me in making decisions.
It is extremely encouraging for a child to know that their mom is listening and responding to their ideas. Furthermore, it is also okay for children to see you struggling, or frustrated; the teachable moment is how you cope and handle it. Modeling Christian values, learning from God’s word, and acknowledging His direction in your life can be the turning point for a child’s personal salvation.
- Be flexible – Modify or compromise your plans without becoming frustrated, angry or upset. Remember that some things are out of our control, and God desires us to rely on Him not on ourselves.
Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interest of others. Philippians 2:4
This can be difficult for most women and can be overwhelming at times but remember that you are not alone. God is with you and is eager to help, just ask Him. Also, your children and family need you to bend and flex with the circumstances, so they can also learn to adjust and compromise. Routines and structure are necessary but give time to God and insert some creativity and fun, and you will find joy in the interruptions. It will change how you parent and God will bless your calendar with extra time for family and yourself.
Jesus was interrupted on many occasions but transformed them into parables to teach his disciples about loving people. His parables interjected wisdom beyond the religion of the time and provided us with characteristics about God and our heavenly home.
- Be authentic – Stay true to your Christian values, morals, and belief in God. Realize that the world has an altered concept of truth, and your children need to know what you believe and why.
Every word of God proves true; he is a shield to those who take refuge in him.
Proverbs 30:5
Even though we may not see how God could use a situation, He promises to work everything for the good of those who love him. God desires our communication in prayer and waits for us to call on him. He uses certain circumstances to draw people to him, so by staying true to your Christian beliefs, you provide a true testimony of faith to your children, family and community.
Children are vulnerable and need guidance to understand what they believe about God, and how to know him personally. Share with your children about God’s protection and provision in your life and what He has done for you and for others. Take time each day to read God’s word together, pray and ask God for strength and to show truth in every situation.
The Lord is near to all who call on Him, to all who call on him in truth. Psalm 145:18
- Be loving – Distribute charity to your family, friends, neighbors and community. Acknowledging that God loves all people, and desires for all to come to salvation.
God’s greatest commandment is for us to love Him with all our heart, soul, mind and strength and to love our neighbor as one’s self. Instructing children to love God and neighbors seems to be a simple concept but can be overwhelming during uncertain times. As a mother, worry, fear and doubt can enter your mind and thoughts and even cloud your wholesome family vision. This will soon create a depressed feeling of loneliness, exhaustion and if unchecked – can lead to alienation from our friends and family.
Therefore, it is imperative as a Christian woman for our mind and thoughts remain on God’s love for us. The Bible tells us that God is love. We must determine in our mind not to dwell on the world’s exploits but center our heart on God’s love for the world. He loved the world so much, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in Him would have eternal life.
Three things last forever – faith, hope and love – and the greatest of these is love.
1 Corinthians 13:13
What an amazing view of love! Love that doesn’t seek after one’s self but puts the needs of others first. There are a variety of methods for assisting neighbors, and it is so encouraging to see. We do have a responsibility to be aware and help those in need, especially people in church family. Sometimes, it can be as simple as a morning smile, or greeting that makes another’s day and encourages their spirit.
If you are looking for avenues of service in your community, start with your own family members, church friends and neighbors. Technology and the Internet are valuable tools allowing us to connect with people all over the world. It lifts my spirit when I can call, chat, or text my family throughout the day, and it brings joy in my heart to hear their voice and know they are safe.
I pray that this will enhance your daily walk with God and with your family. Studying these four concepts has influenced my connection with my spouse, children and friends. I have enjoyed spending time online with family members and committed to prayer walks with my spouse. I believe that God is working to save our families and desires that we remain faithful to Him, even during unsettling times.
Be on guard. Stand firm in the faith. Be courageous. Be strong. 1 Corinthians 16:13
Donna Lindquist
